Post by goldmanguyperson on Mar 6, 2024 9:20:39 GMT
I find DNIs really annoying in some cases and kinda helpful in others. In cases that annoy me, it's because they put really mundane things next to really serious things. Like, a fandom next to literally Nazis. That just seems disrespectful to the people who are part of some fandom, and appears to diminish how bad bigots are to me. Like it's just some other fandom. The Racism Fandom or whatever. Also, it's unlikely in plenty of cases that a person who actually holds bigoted beliefs is going to believe they are bigoted. That's part of why people take such offense to being called racist or sexist or homophobic; they don't believe they're being that way.
I think that it should be more obvious when someone is saying "I just don't feel comfortable with this thing" and when someone is saying "this is what I believe, morally or ideologically". And I think it would help if it was made clearer what is meant when they spout some label out. Like, what do you mean by your internet discourse words? They're so vague and hard to decipher and often wide in community and definitions, and why would I take the time to figure it out upon first meeting you (if for anything but my own sanity)?
The cases where I find them helpful are either solely in avoiding folks for having shitty opinions I don't want to engage with, or in feeling at least marginally safer when following someone. But this is primarily with the "traumagenic vs endogenic" stuff. If someone calls themselves "anti-endo" then I know well enough to avoid them, and if someone says they're "pro-endo" then at least i know they probably won't cause me extreme anxiety on that front. And that's sort of it. Because there's little other big serious identity discourse that I find all that widespread, at least in the places I roam.
Instead of calling my Tumblr "byf" a DNI i call it a manifesto. cuz i think that's fun and i'm a silly little guy at heart. I also try to explain why i have such positions in each entry, because I hate vagueness and I think people deserve to know what they're getting into with me
I think that it should be more obvious when someone is saying "I just don't feel comfortable with this thing" and when someone is saying "this is what I believe, morally or ideologically". And I think it would help if it was made clearer what is meant when they spout some label out. Like, what do you mean by your internet discourse words? They're so vague and hard to decipher and often wide in community and definitions, and why would I take the time to figure it out upon first meeting you (if for anything but my own sanity)?
The cases where I find them helpful are either solely in avoiding folks for having shitty opinions I don't want to engage with, or in feeling at least marginally safer when following someone. But this is primarily with the "traumagenic vs endogenic" stuff. If someone calls themselves "anti-endo" then I know well enough to avoid them, and if someone says they're "pro-endo" then at least i know they probably won't cause me extreme anxiety on that front. And that's sort of it. Because there's little other big serious identity discourse that I find all that widespread, at least in the places I roam.
Instead of calling my Tumblr "byf" a DNI i call it a manifesto. cuz i think that's fun and i'm a silly little guy at heart. I also try to explain why i have such positions in each entry, because I hate vagueness and I think people deserve to know what they're getting into with me